How to Spice Up Your Sex Life

With ACTUAL spice, not just extra vanilla.

I have seen posts about this before and I admit, I laughed when I read them. The ideas posted were so off the mark and frankly… boring… that I wondered if the author actually knew what “spice” meant.

Sex on the beach? There’s a reason that I used that photo. It appears in EVERY article about spicing up your sex life.

First of all, highly overrated. Sand gets in places that sand should never go, it’s incredibly uncomfortable, cold, wet in the wrong way, and done to death. It’s not some movie scene that’s romantic and comes with the added bonus of “we might get caught”. It’s how completely vanilla people add more vanilla to their lives… once… and then realize it sucks.

Want to REALLY spice up your sex life? Stop being boring.

That’s blunt, I know, but here’s where you get to know a different side of me. And I’m not ashamed of it at ALL.

I’m kinky as fuck. Plain truth. “Normal” sex is boring to me. Will it feel good? Sure. Is it going to excite me? Not even slightly.

The key to having a spicy sex life is never where it happens. It’s losing your fear and trying things that sound like maybe you won’t like. But how will you know unless you try?

For one, learn the words “dom”, “sub”, and “switch” and figure out which one you are.

Doms are dominant people. They like to be in control of the act.

Subs are submissive people. They like to be dominated.

Switches are people who like to be both at different times… but typically, they do have a preference and will lean more towards one than the other.

I’m a switch but I lean a lot more towards sub. I like to be dominated. But if I’m with another switch, I can dominate when they want me to.

People think that if they fall into one of these categories, they’re entering a world of sadomasochism that they’re not sure they belong in. You’re not, you’re determining what you like and asking for it.

That said, a little pain with your pleasure never killed anyone.

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